“The woman said to the serpent, We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden….”
Genesis 3:2 NIV
Parenting when my kids were little seemed much easier; more tiring, but easier. I loved when I could set their bedtimes, meal plans, and friends through planned playdates along with my activity choices. They followed the schedule set for them. Then the teenage years hit and I began to lose control. As a youth leader in church I saw how most youth reacted rebelliously when their parents enforced a strong control over their teenager’s will. To ensure I didn’t make this fatal error I learned to keep cutting those apron strings till my blades were dull. Allowing my kids to choose and live by the consequences of their free will has been the most difficult part of parenting for me.
God created Adam and Eve In The Beginning, with a free will. They were able to choose who to listen to, who to follow, what to do and what to think. This freedom comes with a great deal of responsibility. Sadly, Adam and Eve exercised their liberty to listen to the enemy, make choices contrary to what God told them and cater to their selfish desires.
Many times I’ve felt like Paul when he said, “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do… I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway..” In Romans 7:15,19.
[tweetthis]I’ve often thought it would have been easier if God hadn’t given me a #freewill[/tweetthis]
That way I wouldn’t mess up so much.
And then I think about parenting my kids, or the other relationships in my life.
I don’t want to make my kids do the right thing, I want them to choose for themselves to do the right thing. I don’t want them to obey me out of fear, but out of acceptance that I know what’s best, and want the best for them. I don’t want to force my husband to love me, I want him to love me in his own free will.
So, what are you doing with your free will? Do you let your freedom draw you closer to, or further away from God? Choose today to employ your free will to love God more. Allow the liberty you’ve been given to make right choices, following God’s Word; understanding your heavenly Father knows and wants what’s best for you. He always has, right from The Beginning!
Father…I thank You for believing in me enough to give me the freedom to choose. Too often I make the wrong choices and have to suffer the consequences, but I’m so glad you don’t just leave me there. Help me to gain confidence in my ability to exercise my free will in ways that would honor You, bringing me into a deeper relationship with You. In Jesus Name…Amen
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Yes, Sherry! I struggle with it, too. And getting my kids to understand that one failure of their free will doesn’t make them “bad kids.” Just people that need Jesus, like their Mommy! I wrote a little bit about one instance, if you don’t mind me leaving the link… https://www.creativeinspirationsatmymessydesk.com/when-you-get-burned-by-free-will/
Thanks for your great post!!
Glad to hear we’re all in this together. Thankful for a gracious God. Looking forward to checking out your blog 🙂 Have a blessed day!